The dark side of kids fashion and social media

I’d like to raise an issue that bothers me sometimes. And it has to do with kids fashion. I love to sew for my children, but I’m not so sure if I like the world of kids fashion. There are boards and boards of children’s fashion photos on Pinterest, with children dressed as miniature Euro jet setters, and divas, with world weary expressions on their faces. Is the objectification of children thanks to the new social media reaching an all time high? Where do we draw the line? And when does sharing photos of our children on the internet cross the line from innocent sharing to child exploitation?

As a mother who sews for my own children on this blog, this ethical consideration really bothers me. I am really considering not posting any more photos of my kids in their hand made outfits at all.

Sewing for my own children, I often feel torn about sharing photos of them on the internet. Will some weirdo find my child online? Or am I being paranoid because only other mothers who sew and are looking for sewing inspiration stop by to see what I am up to with regards to my children’s sewing projects? I have to admit to being slightly alarmed when photos of my four year old have popped up randomly on Pinterest when I was looking for something else.

Once my child’s photo gets pinned from my blog, I have no control over where that photo ends up, or even if it is used for some advertising in the future, etc. I find it interesting that one of the most well known kids fashion pinners on Pinterest who also sews for her own children, chooses not to show her children’s faces in her blog photos. I think I may do the same thing she is doing from now on.

I don’t want my child to be recognized on the street, not that she would, I don’t have that many followers and I’ll probably lose quite a few by even posting this… But still….  are we posting photos of our children in their handmade outfits to share how fun it is to sew for them and create our own fashions or is there something darker at work?

The need for attention.

And do those cute faces bring attention that pictures of ourselves in our own handmade outfits never could? Let’s face it, our kids are a lot cuter than most of us!

And how are we different from pageant moms? I despise children’s beauty pageants because I feel they objectify children, but how am I different from those mothers? After all, my child is modeling on my blog. Does that now make me a stage mom? Am I validating myself based on the attention my children are getting and how many times they are being “pinned’  or  outfits of them are “liked?” Is it REALLY about the clothes we are making and sharing or we getting ego gratification from the attention ?  These are all questions I urge you to consider, if you share photos of your children.

Since the advent of social media there are a whole new set of rules being made or not made yet, regarding the privacy of children on the internet. After all, children are under our care and have no say as to whether or not we post photos of them on the web, and we have no knowledge of where those photos might end up, be they someone’s Pinterest board or on some weirdo’s wall in their bedroom.

And how do we regulate the monetary gain that bloggers make from posting photos of their children, either in outfits we make for them ourselves, or parents of  pint sized fashion icons with their own Instagram pages and thousands and thousands of followers? And since when did children start BECOMING fashion icons? Since the advent of social media, where everyone is a publisher now.

If people come to a blog to get inspiration on what to sew for their child, and that blog makes money, from advertisers and affiliate links, then it makes sense that some of that money earned should be set aside for that child’s future, especially since the child is the “star” of the blog. Just as several years ago it became required for parents of child actors to put away money that the child earned for that child’s future.  But as of yet, there are no regulations on the payment of children in the world of blogging and internet marketing.

Here is an idea : Why not offer the child a prize on a well known kids sewing competition as well as the parent who made the clothes ? After all, the child had to model through the whole shoot. Maybe it was cold outside, and maybe she would have preferred to stay inside and watch cartoons!

And here is one last thing to consider. Does posting pictures of our children set them up for future bullying by their kids at school as well as future cyber bullying? How about the fact that those pictures we post will be out there on the internet FOREVER?
So here is the question, am I over reacting here or am I onto something? Maybe it’s time to reevaluate.

 

 

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-McKenzie

Comments

  1. says

    This is interesting to me and I’ve given it some thought in the past. You’re right that kids can’t give meaningful consent. (A three year old, like my son, would have no idea what he was consenting to.) Because I have older kids — who weren’t little when I started my blog — I feel reassured that they don’t mind showing up in photos occasionally. They’re still minors, of course, but they have a better idea of what it might mean to be featured on a blog. I don’t make any money, so that might have something to do with my comfort level, but if I did, it would contribute to our household income and probably not be specifically directed towards my kids. (But, again, I feel like I’m pretty thoughtful about this stuff and it’s not like I don’t take care of my kids’ needs when they’re *not* modelling.) I would probably just drop the whole thing, though, if my preschooler stopped wanting to pose. I’m not very into fighting with kids over frivolities.

    • says

      Interestingly enough last year my tween “quit” from havimg me feature her outfits on my blog. My younger one isn’t so crazy about it either. So I will be sewing for myself now.

  2. says

    You are not over reacting at all. I completely agree with you and have toyed with the idea of only showing pics of the kids items I sew on hangers, instead of on my kids. At no point do I want me, or my kids to feel like I am using them to increase my blog traffic. Nor do I want them to loathe every time I make them something because I want to do a “photo shoot” to show off their new outfit.

    And the photos of kids looking like mini adults completely creeps me out!

  3. says

    I think you make a valid point. With my older kids, I definitely ask their permission before posting any pictures of them online…whether it’s sewing related, vacation pictures, athletics, etc.. And I never tag them, it’s up to them to do that. As for the younger girls, I don’t force them to do “photo shoots”. Though, they know that there is often a reward (a piece of candy or here lately, a dollar bill) so they are more inclined to want to pose for pictures. If they ever said no, I wouldn’t make them. There’s always a hanger and a wall handy!

    A positive of all the picture taking for the blog is I have lots of nice pictures of my children.

    On the flip side, I much prefer to see a piece of clothing on a real body than on a dress form or hanger. You get a better idea of fit which is very important to me.

    It all comes down to what you are comfortable with.

  4. says

    I don’t think you’re overreacting. The fear of some weirdo obsessing over my kids is why I stopped using their names on my family blog, and never did on my sewing blog. I rarely post photos of them wearing things I make for them anymore, mostly because they won’t stand still long enough for me to get a decent photo and I don’t have the time to set up elaborate photo shoots. I do think that not showing their faces is a good idea for anytime I want to post about kid clothing in the future, and I think I might adopt that approach. A thought-provoking post.

  5. Sharlyn says

    Valid concerns. I read one blog where all pics posted of her twin girls are cropped just under their noses. Maybe something to consider? There are A LOT of women who have a desperate need to be praised. It’s one of the five basic love languages ( fantastic book by Gary Chapman?) reading that book has helped me understand not only my own family, but also my friends and extended family. I also think there is too much pressure in the blogging world of children’s sewing, the sweet things couldn’t care less what they’re wearing most of the time. While cute, there does need to be somewhere to stop

  6. says

    No, you’re definitely not overreacting. I’ve only recently started blogging and every time I post, I toy around with cropping their faces out of the pictures. Even reading your post, makes me want to go back and crop my photos. It totally creeps me out that I don’t know who could be viewing the photos. And yes some of the photos on Pinterest are a bit creepy with the expressionless faces. I’m not a great photographer to begin with. But I would love to see someone post tips on great kids photography without showing faces. I would definitely still follow your blog, I’m here for the sewing tips and inspriration! Thank you for bringing up the topic.

  7. Regena Fickes says

    This has been on my mind for some time. I do not blog or have a facebook account. I do read blogs for the enjoyment and inspiration. I sew for my granddaughters and I do get ideas from you and others.That being said, I have worried over the unprotected exposure these children are getting. I am not here to judge or advise. All your concerns are valid. Since there is no regulation, you must make the decisions yourselves. I know you will search your hearts and pray for guidance. If anyone stops reading a blog because the blogger has decided to no longer show the faces of her children, you probably would not want them as followers. Whatever you decide, I will continue to read. Thank you for having the courage to put this out.

  8. carolina says

    Not overreacting. I sometimes crop my kids faces, not always because not always can. About Pinterest, I´m afraid that my children´s picture appears on pinterest because of that is not allow in my blog.
    I have a Pinterest account and pin kids pictures but I choose, if I can, the ones with their back or with their side.

  9. says

    You are not over reaching at all. And I debate this with myself constantly. And I question posting pictures of the kids. And as of last month I’m considering not doing it anymore. You bring up so many good points and I agree with all of them. Thanks for talking openly about this subject! I have a lot more thoughts and feelings but can’t put it all into words!

  10. says

    Definitely food for thought. I’m not sure what the answer is though I suspect the answer is a little different for everyone. I don’t have a dress form and my daughter loves getting her pictures taken and I don’t keep a journal or anything anymore and I have a very small blog so up to now I’ve been using her face but maybe I should stop.

  11. cindy coven says

    I am glad you brought this up. Being the gram of 6 of the cutest kids on earth, I have decided to not post pictures of them anymore. My facebook picture has an old pic of one of my granddaughters. I am uncomfortable about it. I hope you continue to post ideas for children, but perhaps blur their faces or get a body double or life size doll to show them off. It is a very dangerous world. When my own grown children were little, I never put their names on their clothes because an adult was picking up kids because he called them by name that he saw on their shirt. The child thought that he was a friend because he knew her name. Thanks again for bringing this up. Remember, just because we read your blog doesn’t make us a family friend. So why should we now what your children look like, their names, or where you live? cindy

  12. Linda says

    I adore looking at the lovely things young mothers make for their own children and the ideas they share with other mothers. My daughters are young married women now. I loved sewing for them and still do.

    We live two miles from a paved road. One Sunday afternoon, I was out in the back yard feeding the pet cat when I noticed a slow moving car come to a stop in front of our house with two men and a woman in it. The driver was out of the car and approaching my toddler who was by the road by the time I arrived in front of the house. I asked what they were doing. They made some excuse about wanting a kitten. I got rid of them and was sick on my stomach for the remainder of the day. Our toddler was crossing the dirt road to go look at our chickens. That was a lesson for me. There is evil everywhere even when you live two miles down a dirt road and know all your neighbors who live a mile or two away. No, I would not show my children’s faces on the net. I would not want anyone to know their names or my last name. I would use a pseudonym if I blogged. I am not on Facebook. I thought it was fun years ago, and then realized that I did not want to let people know about me. Precious children are not safe in this sick world. Decide on a different method of presenting the lovely things you make that inspires us to sew and keep up the good work.

  13. says

    Right there with ya, Justine. I never say my children’s names on my blog and only posted one picture of my son in his Halloween costume I made. Otherwise I just show what I’ve made for him Without hiM Wearing it. We also have a YouTube channel where we play with and review toys and I always frame both of our faces out of the shot. His name is not mentioned at all there either. I was just complaining to my husband that some other toy channel not only showed both of the little boys faces, but the channel was named after their last name. And that’s the other thing I don’t get; moms who just call their kids by a pseudonym or first initial and then still put their photos all over the place–what good does that do? I always remind myself that the kids don’t have a choice, even though they’re growing up digital native and to them it will be “the norm”, would they be angry with me when they’re older and their pictures are everywhere?

  14. says

    I don’t have kids but often wonder if the little ones from some blogs will be annoyed later that so many photos are out there. Whatever you choose, there is a way to make photos not ‘pinnable’. I don’t know how to do it but I’m sure you could google it. Maybe leave one photo that is cropped or on a hanger that can be pinned and the others (cropped or uncropped – whatever you decide) remain on your blog just for viewing. That might reduce the images that can float out into cyberspace.

  15. Aine says

    Thank you for raising this issue 🙂 I had not thought about pictures on Pinterest… I keep my FB as private as possible but have posted pictures of my LO on Pinterest. Well not anymore! I’ve just deleted them. Thanks Justine. x

  16. says

    You’ve brought up some great points. I started blogging in 2007 when I was pregnant with our first child. I struggled with how much to reveal, especially given the horror stories of stalking; however, as a family we decided keeping our long-distance parents and extended family members in touch with our kids through photos was important to us. Our older relatives could not have navigated a private blog, so ours was public.

    My blog audience then was tiny, and it’s still small, which is just fine with me. My six-year-old understands that I share his photos, and he dictates when it’s okay with him for me to do so. I don’t share many personal anecdotes about the kids, mainly because I don’t want to shape our family’s opinion. Let them get to know the kids without me narrating their stories.

    As for sewing and bringing attention and all that — sewing is one of my love offerings to my kids. It’s not contingent on blogging. That said, I have had many friends tell me my sewing for my daughter has inspired them to buy a machine and take a class. I often field questions from friends about sewing. If I didn’t have a public blog, it would have been impossible for me to inspire them to try.

    To end this novella, I’ll say I’ll keep sewing for my kids and posting their photos online. I am an incredibly intentional person and have thought a lot about this. Thanks for bringing up this topic!

  17. Michelle says

    I’ll also add (!!) that my last name is different from my children’s and husband’s, and I don’t reveal theirs.

  18. TM says

    Justine,
    You are spot on regarding the photos on the web. We had a class at our church on this, taught by a Dad who does I.T. for a MAJOR corporation. And yes, once a photo is on the web, it will be out there FOREVER. People can save an image onto their device and even once you delete it, they still have it.
    Another related issue is that photos can be geotagged. On an iPad, if location services are turned on in the camera app, (and maybe photos too, idk), there will info on where the shot was taken imbedded in the photo, and savvy computer users can get it easily. This also applies to Facebook and other apps. I don’t ever have location services turned on unless I absolutely need it for a map, or for stargazing.

    Lastly, lock down your privacy settings in Facebook, if you have an account. And check it periodically, because when FB does updates, sometimes it overrides your settings and makes them more public. I am constantly surprised how many friends of friends have their photos accessible to the public.

    One solution for having your children’s projects shown would be if you used only shots that are from behind. You have had some like that, I’m sure, and they turned out great. Again, make sure they are not geotagged (if that is the right term). And if you showed the front, crop out that lovely face. ESPECIALLY with your teen agers.
    I hope this has helped.

  19. says

    Justine, I think anyone who blogs and sews (or puts pics of their kids online, anywhere!) have HAD to have had these thoughts. The compensation thing especially weighs on me. I’m not paid for my blog, but the kids are still taking time out of their day to take pictures…for me. And yes, there’s 100% some vanity there. I love seeing and showing them off in stuff I make! Just because I want to blog, (paid or not) doesn’t mean that they should be responsible for providing material. I’ve been going broke, because I pay the kids for photo shoots. My daughter, niece, and 2 nephews each have bank accounts that have grown fat from allowance, extra chores, and yup, photo shoots.

    And yeah, now that I think about it-there are several kids I recognize from the blogging world. And I never thought about that before. If bloggy kids become the next “reality tv” type thing, I’m out. But I agree with a commenter above, the answer is different for everyone. If you want complete privacy, you’d almost need to blog under a fake name. I have several friends who do; and I never thought of that. I feel I should mention though, with just a Facebook page; no blog- nothing but a name-anybody can get phone numbers, prior addresses, and 9 times out of ten a current address. Scary world! And great post!!

    • says

      I think it’s great that you compensate your kids for their work Amy. I never thought to do that, but it makes sense, doesn’t it. Especially if you are getting advertising revenue, etc. It seems I opened a can of worms here! It was that Instagram feed from that little Alonso buy that got me going to even write this post. I mean 17,000 followers for a four year old child? What the what the??? I think what I am more concerned about with regards to myself, is am I on an ego trip here?

  20. says

    No, Justine, you are not over reacting and I doubt that you would lose any readers over this post. I applaud you for addressing the issue. I have never shown faces of the little kids I sew for on my blog; the reason being, I don’t know where those photos will end up. Once I put a photo on my blog, I have lost control of it, no matter what measures I use or don’t use on my blog. One of your readers mentioned making the photos of kids unpinnable. It’s easy to do (just insert some code), but it’s also fairly easy to circumvent. It’s the same with preventing right clicking on an image.. also easy to get around. Bottom line, if the photo is on a blog, anyone can do what they want with that image.

    When I do my weekly features, I also choose images which don’t show kids’ faces, even if the owner is comfortable with me showing the faces. Same goes when I pin a project. I choose side view, back view, head down etc or on a hanger. I don’t need the cutesy face to showcase the actual project.

    Even if my sewing were good enough, I know my stand precludes me from ever being invited to be a part of the competitions sewing kids’ clothes. Adding faces also adds the cute factor, which seems to be a big part of some of these competitions. It’s a shame we are not solely concentrating on the clothes.

    On the other hand, seeing clothes on a child gives a much better idea of how the clothes will look and hang, as opposed to on a hanger. In a former life, a friend and I were required to take photos of kids so that the kids were not recognisable, but still show the kids doing various activities. I’m not good at it, but my friend mastered the art. The key was all in the angle the photo was taken from.

    I’ve chosen a standpoint that I am comfortable with. I in no way judge others if they choose to show faces of kids. Everyone has to choose what they are comfortable with.

    • says

      Thanks for such great insight. With more and more people getting into blogging lately, it’s been something I’ve been thinking about a lot. Everyone want to get famous with their blogs nowadays.

  21. Jill says

    I don’t think you’re overreacting at all. I sew for kids, but not my own, so I rarely have pics to post of the things I make being worn; when I do I typically crop out the child’s face if it is at all possible without ruining the garment somehow. I think the children of designers and bloggers are adorable, but I’m not prowling the net looking for kid pics either…your concern is dead on. There are creepy people out there doing just that. I often feel at a disadvantage to the designers and sewers who have models at their beck and call to photograph in their creations, but at the end of the day in the back of my head I do consider their safety as I smile at the adorable child in the cutest dress. Most bloggers tell you where they are located in the world, we know all the kids names’ and more personal information not generally shared with strangers. Where to draw the line between making your readers feel like family, wanting to visit your blog again and protecting the safety and privacy of your family is absolutely a valid question! I think if you’ve got kids who you are creating for and they are willing, use them in your photos. Make the garment the star and crop or otherwise mask your child’s face. Maybe you actually make them a fun mask to go with their new outfit? New poses that don’t showcase their faces? The days of “leave it to beaver” are long gone. Your post reminded me of a situation on Facebook several years ago where 2 women had stolen photos of each other’s children and were using the children as weapons to hurt each other. It was time to leave FB for me then. And I realized how very connected we all are thanks to technology, and that that’s not always a good thing. We all need to be careful for ourselves and our loved ones. Great post!

  22. says

    I sew a lot of children’s clothing, much of it heirloom. I DO NOT ever put up pictures of children in my clothing. Are you kidding? I have heard stories and will not do it. My ego does not need it, thank heavens, and I know they are beautiful. The rest of the world does not need to know. So when you see my completed garments they are hopefully artistically photo’d by with no children in them. People always ask where they are but too bad so sad. Better safe than sorry.

    I could tell you a story about a friend’s daughter’s photo and pinterest. I don’t want to prolong the family’s issue so won’t but trust me, you don’t want those photos up.

  23. says

    I think these are all valid concerns. I waffle back and forth too. Honestly I think I’m moving toward doing more creative cropping. I do always try to create a “pinnable” title block that doesn’t include their face- but that is no guarantee. You can lock pictures in any number of ways, but they are all easy to get around. Bottom line I would keep reading your blog if you cropped your kids, I hope that others feel that way about mine!

  24. Judy says

    Justine,
    thank you for such a wonderful article and one that really scared me..[First , let me say, I love your blog, and will follow you and your wonderful sewing/crafting, regardless of whether you show those sweet kids photos or not.]
    I have thought about this a lot, and it really scares me.. But, I tell myself, I am old,my blog is not showy at all.. I love to sew and do so for my grandkids.. but would any weirdo find”my uninteresting blog?”
    And this has post, has made me realize , that it could be found. and I hate the idea that all those photos will be hanging around out there FOREVER.. so scary..
    I am computer dumb for sure,[ha] so the idea of covering the faces ,etc.. Would not work for me, I don’t know how to do all that stuff. I am thinking, I will not do photos of my grandkkids anymore..
    This is just too dangerous..
    Isn’t it sad, that we live in a world, that has perverts that are stalking our children? So sad..
    thank you for sharing this post. I think we all need to hear this.. Hugs my friend.

  25. beckyjopdx says

    Ugh. You’re right, you’re right, I *know* you’re right.

    My DH has some…very minor fame status in our area and rarely posts his real photo but at the height of his fame, he’d have a female (and male) stalker a week. It was ridiculous and not always funny. Food would show up at the door, people would ‘just run into him at the coffee shop’ over and over.

    I *know* better and I’ve still posted my kids’ faces. Not for vanity or praise, I just think they’re so cute and I like to see them. It’s not like I get a ton of traffic.

    Yeah. Back to cropping.

    You’re right. You’re right. I know you’re right.

  26. Honora says

    I’ve been a preschool teacher for 24 yrs. This is something that concerns me greatly as well. I think we all need to be cautious, but also positive. Most people are not insane stalker types, or terrifying sexual weirdos. Have faith in humanity and use caution.
    I enjoy seeing how the clothes fit on children, AND their joy in having something fabulous. Maybe, you could ask for people not to pin your child’s picture. Is it an option to take a photo of the outfits on a hanger for posting, and on your child for example of fit?

    • says

      ” Most people are not insane stalker types, or terrifying sexual weirdos. ” You are right. Most people aren’t. But all it takes is one and do you want your child or grandchild to be their object?

      Pictures are on the internet FOREVER. Let’s not forget that. Unless you have installed a block, which you can easily do, anyone can pin your pic to their boards and once it’s on Pinterest we are talking free game here.

  27. carol says

    please don’t quit posting photos………cropped faces or displayed on a hanger is all i need. i don’t put my face on patternreview either.

  28. says

    I have to admit…when I first read your post, I thought, “Oh Justine, you’re overreacting.” Then, it got me thinking. I totally get where you’re coming from, but I also think that if a weirdo really wanted to do something to my kids, he would just follow us to the park or home from preschool. He’d be a lot more able to do something to them in-person, you know?

    I do believe that in some cases, children are exploited, but there’s a huge gray area where parents should simply use discretion and good sense. Unfortunately, not all do, but I don’t agree with a lot of other people’s parenting tactics! Ha!

    As far as kids’ photos being out there FOREVER…meh…I dunno…that’s kind of just the day and age in which we’re living. The problem is that too many parents don’t know where to draw the line.

    Definite food for thought…as you can tell, I am a bit torn.

    • says

      The thing that I am most concerned about is the lack of privacy this new generation of kids is being raised with, not really wierdos, but of course thats an issue too. And how my posting photos of my own kids is contributing to that. My 11 year old has already quit modeling from my blog on her own. She doesn’t want to be on Pinterest,etc.

  29. says

    My oldest daughter hates to have her picture taken. I have to bribe her just to get her school pictures done, so knowing that she is no longer featured on my blog, although I do still take pictures of her to keep for my own memories, and I think she will be happy to have them some day. My youngest is a ham. There is nothing she loves more than seeing her face on the internet and it the idea of strangers seeing her never bothered me. I think of it as going out in public. If you take your child to a public park a stranger can get a picture of them and use it how they want (although maybe not legally) it doesn’t stop them. As long as she enjoys it I will probably keep posting pictures.

    I have seen some really creative idea from parents that prefer not show there child face. Everything from really intricate mascaraed style masks, from photo shopping out the child and replacing it with a cute drawing of a child. The outfit still looks like it is on a person so viewers can still see how it would look on a real person.

  30. sang says

    Just another parent chiming in. I don’t think you’re over reacting. There was a lovely blog I used to follow years ago – katie did. The clothes she sewed for her little ones were just darling. Unfortunately some creepy person used the photos of her children on flickr and facebook, claiming them as her own. She stopped blogging because of this. Since then I have seen photos of her children from her blog pop up every once in a while on random advertisements and such. Just like everyone says, once your photos hit the web, it’s there forever and any person without ethics can and will use the photos without your permission…

  31. says

    Thank you so much for posting this, Justine! First of all, I want to say that I think it’s great that you are bringing this up and I agree with a lot of what you, and your readers, have said above. I have actually been thinking about this issue a lot recently and talking with people about it and I really go back and forth. Like I said, I agree with basically everything – all the reasons why you shouldn’t post kids’ pictures on the web, BUT, I just wanted to say something in response to the “shouldn’t we be more focused on the clothes, not the cute faces” argument. While we are sewing blogs and we do come to see clothing inspiration, to say that is ALL we do, I think is not the full picture. A lot of people write and read blogs, not only for the sewing, but to tell stories and make connections and though it certainly isn’t necessary to show faces to do that, I do think it’s a lot easier to feel like you know someone when you can see their face. I love hearing funny anecdotes from my favorite bloggers about their kids and seeing their cute and smiling or silly or even grumpy faces. It just gives them so much character and makes them seem real and likeable, relatable and makes us feel like we really know them (although this can obviously be just an illusion). And these kinds of connections are what often keep us coming back to a blog. Yes, we can probably still do all that without sharing our children’s faces, but it’s definitely not as easy. Anyways, I don’t want to judge anyone for making the decisions they make – I do think it’s wise for everyone to consider these things before making those decisions though and not take it so lightly, so I really do appreciate this conversation. Good luck with whatever you decide to do – I know I have some thinking to do myself . . .

    • says

      Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving such good points Cherie. I wish there was a way that only sewing or carft people could access our blogs. Then it would be perfect!

  32. says

    Super interesting topic. This is something I think a lot about. The main reason why I don’t post my kids faces on my blog is because of my husbands wishes. I am always discussing with him and trying to convince him of letting me put my kids on my blog and I actually have a little more lately. Only because I sometimes feel like some of the photos are better when you see my kids, you see their personalities shine through which I would like to share once in a while. However, I like that when I sew something the focus becomes the clothes and not the face. A lot of my readers don’t even realize that their faces aren’t completely there. And it would feel very weird if a photo of my kid went viral. I think the key is balance, and what type of photos you post. The day my kids don’t want their photos on the blog anymore, I will stop and if they want me to take down the posts of them, I will. Now when it comes to the jet set photos of kids on pinterest, as with everything, there is a fine line bewtween good and bad- I do not tolerate make-up or sexy poses but I do like some of the “grown-up” fashion on kids. As I always say, it has to be in good taste. Justine, maybe your kids have come to that age where you need to start focusing on you- i know it’s bound to happen to me too.

    • says

      One thing I do notice about your posts Celina is I like the way it is really about the design of the clothing. Another blogger Skirt As Top also photographs her daughter in a way that doesn’t show her face either, but shows the clothing very well. Maybe a combination of doing that and showing faces once in awhile but not all the time is a good compromise.

  33. says

    Very interesting Justine! I don’t know if you ever check my blog, but if you do you know I am one of those moms who choose NOT to show her child’s face online. Not on my blog, not on my personal fb page, not anywhere only. I found myself often wondering many times if I am being too paranoic, but I just can’t risk it. The world is mean, and even though I hope only other moms and sewing enthusiastics are on the other side “of the screen” the truth is that I will never know who is seeing/pinning/sharing and god knows what else, my kids photos.
    And now that I read the othe comments I worried that people would know our last name (because of the blog’s name), but luckily for me, I don’t have my hubby’s last name, so theirs are both different from mine.

  34. Melissa says

    I have thought about this over and over, and unfortunately, there will always be people with a sick mind who view children wrong. With the rise of pictures on social media, even more exposure to children’s photos are out there.
    For me just starting to blog, and using my children as models for the rare times I sell clothing, I have decided to allow their faces. My reasoning may not make sense to some, but unless we keep kids in a bubble, with the rise of technology, people can snap pictures of our children at any time without us even realizing.
    I protect them as best I can, but technology has definitely changed the ease we have protecting them. And with the technology, the use of GPS, not knowing how safe our mobile devices are from intruders, etc. There is a ton we are unaware of since we all rely on it so heavily.

  35. Martha says

    Scary world today, isn’t it! I am a grandma these days, but scary isn’t new. My daughter (at age 5) was on our porch one day. Someone tried to lure her into his vehicle. We live in a rural area, know everyone for miles. Just thankful my niece stepped out to see why the dogs were cutting up and scared him away. To this day, our grandkids aren’t allowed to play in the front yard with out an adult between them and the road.
    Second story: same daughter played a lot of softball, so we were in a lot of ballparks. A teacher for the local school board made extra money by umpiring games. He was also known for having a nice camera with him occasionally. Yep, he was arrested for child porn. He was guilty, he had tried to justify taking nude shots of children playing because their parents gave permission in a conversation between the two of us. Yes, he admitted to me he was involved in child porn! (He used a computer software to move faces to different bodies.) I discussed my knowledge of the issue with the detective investigating the case, and had to ask if photographer had my daughter’s face in any pictures!

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